Kabayan Exchange

I had dinner with two friends who were in the testing phase of what could be. They came from different parts of the world but were both exposed to the complexities of culture. They were broadminded and were careful not to rush into something they might regret in the future. Along the course of our meal we came to a point of how to find out if you were meant to be. I pondered and blurted out two significant and vital parts of the “knowing” process. I said you have to primarily connect on two levels of communication, the verbal and the non-verbal. And, as Mr. Covey states, “Begin with the end in mind”. Read the rest of this entry →

Facebook has done wonders in connecting us to people we may have forgotten long ago. The cravings of curiosity push us to search and click on profiles that normally we have tossed into oblivion. The proliferation of strangers requesting addition to our list of friends make it easy to conceal those we would be afraid to admit to a present romance. Secret conversations, deleted messages and private settings characterize these concealed visits to the past. Have we entered an era of virtual promiscuity? What repercussions have we allowed to creep into our lives? Does this strengthen or weaken our commitment to our present Beau? I suggest precaution, these virtual temptations pose as present day Pandora’s boxes that may invite evil we may be unable to control. The truth lies in the fact that time and seasons change people. What we have dreamed to have in the past and not attained is not guaranteed to be found when we try to reconnect or continue a lost flame. Most of what has been lost is lost for a reason. If we were meant to be, let the normal and natural course of events finds its way into our present. If it was meant to be, we need not make things happen. In the meantime, only if you know where you stand and are stable emotionally and intellectually, keep them for what you have added for…just friends…

Many people end up regretting the person they are with because they have allowed emotions to take precedence over what is logical. Stimulation from media and social influence has greatly affected the way we choose a significant other. Many times, our fantasies or ideals surpass or cloud the obvious and plain truth staring right at us. Our constant association and interaction with who we are with become something we often perceive as the one in our dreams. Read the rest of this entry →